Empower a Positive Mindset #BCSLearns

In Lifehack, author, publisher and entrepreneur, David William’s shares in his article 15 Questions to Ask Your Kids to Help Them Have Good Mindsets.  Fixed vs. Growth Mindset research surged upon Carol Dweck’s book Mindset.  I have included the topic in several of my past posts including:

Now, here, in William’s post, he shares 15 questions that we can cue up for the students we serve, as well as our own children, that can nurture in them a positive mindset.

  1. What five words do you think best describe you?
  2. What do you love doing that makes you feel happiest?
  3. What do you know how to do that you can teach others?
  4. What is the most wonderful/worst thing that ever happened to you?
  5. What did you learn from the best/worst thing that’s happened to you?
  6. Of all the things you are learning, what do you think will be the most useful when you are an adult?
  7. If you could travel back in time three years and visit your younger self, what advice would you give yourself?
  8. What are you most grateful for?
  9. What do you think that person feels?
  10. What do you think your life will be like in the future?
  11. Which of your friends do you think I’d like the most? Why?
  12. If you could grow up to be famous, what would you want to be famous for?
  13. How would you change the world if you could?
  14. How can you help someone today?
  15. If you could make one rule that everyone in the world had to follow, what rule would you make? Why?

These questions help the individual reflecting upon and answering them to focus on the following:

  • The strengths I have – strength-based focus
  • What makes me happy – positive attitude
  • Both successes and mistakes are opportunities to learn – failing forward
  • Reflect on how much I have grown and learned – reflection
  • Gratitude
  • Empathy

These are all key ingredients in ensuring we lead our lives with a growth mindset.  Ready to test your mindset online at Dweck’s website – and even have the kids test theirs.  Give it a try, and then nurture your own and others’ mindset with the aforementioned questions.

I end this post with the below talk that was given at a relatively local TEDx event in Traverse City, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Dr. Alia Crum “says the biggest game changer is ‘YOU, by harnessing the power of your mind.’ She explores scientific results that show the influence of the mindset on the body, and how changing the subjective mindset produced different outcomes.”  We are not victims; we are empowered!

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Empathy – Practice Makes Perfectly Permanent #BCSLearns

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At BCS, our Moral Compass is our touchstone and with this year’s theme of EMPATHY helping us live into the direction our moral compass provides, we look forward to our November monthly focus that empathetic people have a MORAL IDENTITY.  Let us continue to lean in and lead with EMPATHY always embracing our BCS Moral Compass!

In Michelle Boba’s book Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World, chapter 2 focuses on the concept that empathetic people have a moral identity.  Helping our children develop “an ethical code so [they] will adopt caring values that guide their integrity and activate empathy to help others.”

Here are the top 5 key points to know from this chapter:

  1. Moral Identity can inspire empathy, activate compassion, and motivate caring behavior
  2. To respond empathetically, kids must value other people’s thoughts and feelings
  3. Overpraising can make kids competitive, tear others down, and diminish empathy
  4. Entitling and “overvaluing” kids may increase narcissism and hamper moral identity
  5. If a child can imagine him/herself as a caring person, he/she is more likely to care about others

So, how can we strengthen our children’s Moral Identity?

Following are strategies our teachers will be employing and you can “practice” at home:

  • Take a reality check
    • Notice how children react to your encouragement and watch for signs you may be overpraising.
  • Align Praise w/ Character
    • Help them see themselves as “good people” by pointing out how their behavior matches their identity (“you’re the kind of person who always helps” or “you’re so caring” or “you’re thoughtful and you show it when you…”)
  • Use nouns, not verbs
    • Talk about kids “being helpers, not ‘helping’” – studies show kids are more likely to help when you use that type of language.
  • Focus on character, not behavior
    • Helps kids internalize altruism
    • Example of Character-focused praise: “You’re the kind of person who likes to help other people” or “you’re a considerate and helpful person”
    • Example of Behavior-focused praise: “It’s nice to see you sent some school supplies to orphans” or “sharing your toys was a considerate thing to do”
  • Model It
    • Kids follow our example

How Kids Can R.E.F.U.S.E. Temptations & Stick Up for Their Beliefs:

  • R–Review who you are
  • E–Express your belief
  • F–Firm voice
  • U–Use strong posture
  • S–Say no and don’t give in
  • E–Exit

Hey parents (and teachers too)!  While the below video is great for teachers as well, check out these parenting tips from Michele Borba.

How Can I be of Service? #BCSLearns

As we finalize our report cards communicating student progress to the students and the parents for the first quarter, I though I would highlight this article entitled 15 Customer Service Skills that Every Employee Needs written by Gregory Ciotti, a writer, marketing strategist and alum of Help Scout.  You can certainly read the descriptions of each in the article, though I wanted to relate these skills to how they will help us all as we share progress, celebrate, and goal set with our parents during our upcoming parent conferences.

  1. Patience – While you have a limited time with parents, show your patience with parents as they reach out to you for support, specific feedback on their child, and reassurance.
  2. Attentiveness – Give parents your full focus and listen to their perspective.  Strike the important balance of the conversation between how much you talk and how much you listen.
  3. Clear Communication Skills – Offer parents specific feedback on their child’s progress socially, emotionally, physically and academically, the whole child.  Give them specific examples of their progress in these areas.
  4. Knowledge of the Product – Be sure you know each of your students: socially, emotionally, physically and academically.  Your knowledge of your students will help parents know the efforts you have made to know their child.
  5. Ability to Use Positive Language – Whether you’re sharing strengths of the child or their goal areas/weaknesses, BE POSITIVE, and even with the weaknesses, these are goal areas in which we will work with the students to grow and progress.
  6. Acting Skills – To go along with being positive, if a parent begins to show frustration and/or challenge you, show them that you’re here to partner with them in support of their child’s growth and development.  “I’m here with and for you!”
  7. Time Management Skills – watch the clock, careful not to rush, and set a time for a follow up phone call of meeting if needed.
  8. Ability to Read Customers – See numbers 5 and 9!
  9. A Calming Presence – As Ciotti shares in the article, “be the ‘rock’ for a [parent] who thinks the world is falling down due to their current problem.”
  10. Goal Oriented Focus – Every child has relative areas of weakness.  These are goal areas, both academic and behavioral.  Work with the parent and the student to set an academic and behavioral goal with strategies to help achieve them turning weaknesses in to opportunities for growth and development.
  11. Ability to Handle Surprises – See number 9!  Also, for surprising situations be open to asking for others to support: a teammate, colleague, counselor, principal, etc. and set a follow up opportunity to plan with the students and parent.
  12. Persuasion Skills – You will be able to convince parents, even if they’re feeling hopeless with respect to their child, that you will work together with them to support their child’s growth and development.  Lean in and Lead with Empathy!
  13. Tenacity – You have shown parents this to-date and you will demonstrate it at conferences that you have “a great work ethic and a willingness to do what needs to be done (and not take shortcuts)…” in service and support of their child.
  14. Closing Ability – Ciotti states it best, “To be clear, this has nothing to do with ‘closing sales”‘ or other related terms. Being able to close with a [parent] means being able to end the conversation with confirmed satisfaction (or as close to it as you can achieve) and with the [parent] feeling that everything has been taken care of (or will be)” with necessary follow up as needed.
  15. Willingness to Learn – See number 2!  Listen and learn more about the student from their parent’s unique perspective.  Show them your undeniable thirst for learning more about their child, which, in turn, will undoubtedly help you better support him or her.

Or, if all else fails, have a laugh with the advice below from Gerry Brooks and the following video where he encourages you to get help with your conferences from “Pattie the Parent Teacher Conference Helper Doll.”  Enjoy!

It’s Time to Re-Inspire Yourself #BCSLearns

In the most recent ASCD Education Update, managing editor Sarah McKibben shares tips from the 2017 State and National Teachers of the Year on how to break out of the “October Slump”  in the article 10 Ways to Get Your Mojo Back.  Review these 10 ways to re-inspire yourself at this important time of the school year.  Above all else, try number 11 – Create Peak Moments!

  1. Find Strength in Your Students – commit to loving your students
  2. Learn Something New – “It could be as simple as picking up a book or watching a documentary about the topic you’re teaching.”
  3. Pull Out All the Instructional Stops – “Whatever the time of year, creating engaging and offbeat lessons can reinvigorate your students–and you.”
  4. Battle Your Boredom – use your instructional freedom and “play with timing…to learn, innovate, and experiment.”
  5. Find Your Tribe – Find that “colleague who can pick you up when you’re feeling overwhelmed–that person who sees the bright side in any situation, who listens, gives advice, or shares ideas for lessons…Just make sure it’s a positive source of comfort and support.”
  6. Hit Pause and Reflect – Celebrate what you have accomplished so far and the amazing relationships you have built with your students.
  7. Never Let Your Flame Go Out – “In Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, author Dan Pink suggests three things that create intrinsic motivation: autonomy, mastery, and purpose. Autonomy is our desire to be self-directed. Mastery is the urge to improve skills, while purpose is the desire to do meaningful and important work…teachers, like students, will be more productive and engaged if all three of these needs are met.”
  8. Take a Hike – literally, take a walk, breathe and reflect or use one of your favorite stress-reducing strategies.
  9. Have Coffee with a Mentor – meet regularly (weekly) as these types of meetings are “crucial to [our] mental health and professional development.”
  10. Resist the Isolation – “Reach out to people you trust…Invite them into your classroom and go into theirs–it can inspire you and [serve as a] reminder that you’re not doing this work alone.”  We are a community at BCS!

And my added Number 11 from the Heath Brothers – Create Peak Moments

One of our teachers shared the below video with me, which I, in turn, shared with our BCS Leaderhsip Team in September.  It fits rather nicely with this ASCD article on getting our mojo back.  In the video, Dan Heath suggests, in his book The Power of Moments and in the below video, that we “Build Peaks, Don’t Fix Potholes…When we look back on our experiences, we remember moments. Great experiences hinge on peak moments.” Let’s Create extraordinary moments in our classrooms as those are the learning experiences we all will remember – students and the teachers!

 

Can’t Serve Academics on a Broken Plate #BCSLearns

At the National Forum on Character education this weekend, I had the opportunity to meet Houston Kraft, a professional speaker, leadership consultant, and kindness advocate for CharacterStrong.  I attended his breakout session on his view on the importance of nurturing the character development of the students we serve where he outlined 5 critical C’s.

  • Clarity: We must stop living for happiness and start living for clear purpose – Why do you do what you do? As Maya Angelou first claimed, “People will forget what you you, people will forget what you do, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
  • Competence: People want to be good, they just don’t always know what good looks like. There is a difference between personality and character.  We have shifted from a culture of character to a culture of personality.  People can have similar personalities, but it’s their character that determines their legacy.  “Personality is what we wear to the gym, but character is how hard we work out” or said another way, “personality is what we prefer and character is what we practice – Character is love in action.”
  • So, how do you build a habit? (check out the image below that aligns nicely with Kraft’s notion of habit-building)
    1. Unconscious and unskilled
    2. Conscious and unskilled
    3. Conscious and skilled
    4. Unconscious and skilled
      • What if we could make ourselves and the students we serve unconsciously skilled at kindness?
  • Consistency: Put your focus on the little things daily, and the big things get better. Make time, daily for the practice of kindness.  Character the plate and academics are served on it.  You cannot serve academics on a broken plate.  Create a bulletin board in your classroom that asks, “What have you done for others today?” as an entry ticket or exit ticket for your students as conversation-starters for connecting.
  • Control the clarity, competence and consistency with which we embed our character education efforts (why, how, where, what, and with whom).
  • Cultivate a compassionate and empathetic culture.

Our vision at BCS requires and inspires us to infuse 21st Century skills into all of our programming, and Kraft links these modern skills to skills of character by sharing segment of a video of Boston University Character Lab Research Director Andrew Sokatch on “Teaching character – the other half of the picture” at TEDxManhattanBeach.  Sokatch gives “a sobering yet attainable message regarding the education of today’s youth…Andrew argues character can and should be taught in schools, noting grit, persistence, self-control, courage, and humor, are all critical life skills for successful employment, marriages, and citizenship.”  Check out the 12-minute video and be proud of the great learning experiences we provide at BCS and keep on, keeping on!

Critical Dispositions of a Modern Teacher? #BCSLearns

This post about the Profile of a Modern Teacher drew my attention immediately.  Here is a relatively large, yet compelling, list of the “internal dispositions” of a modern teacher that allow them to continually learn and grow in the expertise of their craft.  Which ones come naturally to you?  Which ones do you find it most necessary to hone or invoke explicitly?

A modern teacher needs to…

  • Choose to be vulnerable
  • Move into their students’ world even if it’s foreign territory
  • Dream big and ask “Why not?”
  • Feel secure asking their colleagues for help
  • See themselves as co-learners, not teachers
  • Run towards their area of weakness, not away from it
  • Allow their students to teach each other
  • Model resiliency and perseverance
  • Allow themselves to fail, often
  • Are comfortable not knowing what is going to happen
  • Step outside their comfort zone
  • Question everything
  • Don’t wait until they’re experts to introduce something
  • Invite mistakes into their lives
  • Embrace change
  • Believe they can learn anything, given the right attitude and effort

The two important themes around each of these dispositions is learning and failing forward.  In an article form the Mindset Work’s Blog called Mistakes Are Not All Created EqualEduardo Briceño details four types of mistakes using the below graphic.

  • Stretch mistakes “happen when we’re working to expand our current abilities.”
  • Aha-moment mistakes happen “when we achieve what we intend to do, but then realize that it was a mistake to do so because of some knowledge we lacked which is now becoming apparent.”
  • Sloppy mistakes happen when we’re doing something we already know how to do, but we do it incorrectly because we lose concentration.
  • High-stakes mistakes are ones we want to avoid as they can be “catastrophic”, “dangerous” or “important ramifications.”

How do we see failure as a positive where we engage our growth mindset, resilience and grit learning from stretch mistakes and aha-moment mistakes while avoiding sloppy mistakes and high-stakes mistakes is the most critical of dispositions for a modern teacher or modern learner or human being.  In focusing on this theme of mistake-making/failing forward.  Check out the two videos below.

In this 8-minute video, “U.S. Ambassador Suzi LeVine offers her insight on what makes American businesses succeed and how others can learn from the power of mistakes and failure.”

And how about I share again this popular 6-minute talk on GRIT from Duckworth…

 

“Super Skills” for the Modern Learner #BCSLearns

Design Thinking is a people-centered approach to problem solving and solution seeking with empathy at it’s center (beginning, middle and end).  It’s the architecture for problem solving with a clear focus for problem definition and finding patterns.  With empathy at it’s core, people are at the center of the process and understanding others’ perspectives drives the process.  I had the opportunity to attend the EdLeader21 conference this past Tuesday and Wednesday and think around their framework, the 4C’s.  I have posted about deep learning skills and characteristics in the past and having just returned from the the EdLeader21 conference focusing on their 4C’s and building a profile of our graduates.  I reflected upon our district’s Profile of a Graduate and the 4C’s:

  • Communication: Sharing thoughts, questions, ideas, and solutions
  • Collaboration: Working together to reach a goal — putting talent, expertise, and  smarts to work
  • Critical Thinking: Looking at problems in a new way, linking learning across subjects & disciplines
  • Creativity: Trying new approaches to get things done equals innovation & invention

These are not new skills to our focus at BCS.  They are, in fact, a daily focus of ours in our interdisciplinary efforts in all of our programs.  Furthermore, Design Thinking is embedded at BCS in our programs like Engage, Engineering Technology, Thinkering Studio and more.  At the conference, I attended a design thinking flash lab led by Bo Adams and his colleagues from the Mount Vernon Institute for Innovation.  While at BCS we use the Stanford d.school model, MVIFI references this model and used their D.E.E.P. design thinking flow (click for the image) for a flash lab.

  • D – Discover
  • E – Empathize
  • E – Experiment
  • P – Produce

Whatever you call it or whatever acronym you create, it’s about design thinking promoting creativity, problem-solving, solution-finding and innovative thinking. here are two other ways to look at it; Clayton Christenson’s theory, “disruptive innovation” in under two minutes and what happened to the creator of the MRI machine when he realized what a miserable experience it was for the users…

“Doug Dietz had been designing MRI and CT machines for more than 20 years at GE when he came to Stanford’s executive education program. He returned home and got to work on an extreme need: taking the fear out of the MRI and CT scan experience for children. Listen to him talk about the solution he created.”